Ask anyone about “resilience” and they’ll likely say that it’s the ability to “bounce back” from a crisis. But contrary to popular belief, resilience isn’t something that you store in a closet for a rainy day.
After more than six decades of ongoing studies, researchers have considerably broadened their perspective on the value of resilience as a powerful combination of skills and behaviors that can benefit you every single day.
Specifically, highly resilient people are said to have a greater sense of control over the quality of their own life, tend to be healthier and live longer, are more successful in school and work, are happier in relationships and are less prone to depression.
Consider that every day we face challenges that require a balanced outlook and stamina … commitment overload, financial strain, relationship challenges, striving to achieve goals, and for some, health issues, divorce, passing of a loved one, or loss of a job.
Even joyous occasions such as marriage and pregnancy include a whole range of stressors and how we handle them either enhances or detracts from these life-changing events.
Never believe anyone who says they will empower you. Others may inspire and even motivate you, but there is only one person who can empower you and that is YOU.
This is why …
You are the only one who can truly know what will make you happy and what you need to help you grow into the strong and confident person you were meant to be.
Maybe you’re in the process of moving through a major life change, or you feel there are missing pieces in your life and aren’t sure how to figure out what they are. It could be that you have a pretty good handle on your life now, but you’d like to strengthen certain areas like setting healthy boundaries, building self-confidence, or learning to let go of the guilt that inevitably comes with setting aside time for self-care.
There is no one-size-fits-all user manual to build a life.
If you’re new here it’s worth noting that my approach to developing resilience is a little different than what you may be used to because I focus on prevention and growing forward as opposed to the popular notion of bouncing back.
It may seem like simple wordplay, but it is actually a very important shift in mindset. The reality is, it is an illusion to think you can truly bounce back to where you once were because every experience changes you in some way.
Just ask the divorcee, ask the person who has recovered from a grave illness or the person who has uprooted their entire life to move across the country. Think back to changes you’ve experienced in your own life, and how your perspective shifted as a result of the things you learned.
Why do the work to stand up to life’s challenges only to end up comfortably settled back into where you started? In fact, it may well be that the way things were led you down this path to change in the first place!
When you focus on growing forward it enables you to remain open to finding opportunities for growth and fulfillment in all of your experiences!
The first and arguably most important step to begin taking charge of your life is to believe that you have the power and authority to do so. Whether you have an obstacle to overcome, a goal you’re striving to achieve, or you simply long to feel more confident, you are far more likely to do whatever it takes to grow beyond your circumstances if you truly believe in yourself.
Admittedly, sometimes that’s much easier said than done, but I believe in you because I believe in the power within each of us to create a life we love. So, if you’re running a little short on self-belief right now, why not join our community and let’s do this together!
A little about me …
My name is Marquita (mar-kee-ta) Herald and I’m a personal development and resilience coach, author, publisher, and the founder and chief evangelist of Emotionally Resilient Living.
I work hard to stay on top of the latest research on resilience and positive psychology, and rarely write about things I haven’t experienced personally.
Occasionally share personal stories in articles and my books, but for now, if you’d like to learn more about my background and quirky bits and pieces I invite you to read My Story.
If this is your first time here, I understand it’s hard to know where to start, so I’ve created this page to provide you with a sort of unofficial directory to help you find the best stuff at Emotionally Resilient Living.
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Discover Resilient Living. This isn’t just teaser or preview, but a highly targeted and actionable digital guide designed to help you begin creating a roadmap that will put you firmly in the driver’s seat of your life journey.
Facebook fan? I’ve recently launched a brand new page – Emotionally Resilient Living. In addition to the latest articles, I’ll be sharing inspiring stories of resilience, everyday heroes, motivation and valuable tips.
Google Plus? I post often here and my most popular Collections include, Resilient Living, It’s Your Time Now, Self-Care, and Journaling for Personal Growth. My newest Collections are the Business of Being an Author and Making a Difference.
I love great visuals, and collect as well as write original inspirational quotations, so of course, Pinterest is one of my favorite social sites. I have created boards for each of my books as well as topics associated with the stories I tell here.
Yep, I’m also on Twitter, although to be honest I’m less active here than the other channels simply because I find it a noisy, chaotic place and I prefer to get personal with my readers.
To get right to the heart of key topics covered here I encourage you to start by checking out the pages here in the Reference Library. Each page covers a key topic associated with developing resilience and includes links to relevant articles to learn more about the subject. There are more articles in the works for the Library and community members receive a courtesy update.
- An Introduction to the Art of Resilient Living
- The Relationship Between Confidence and Resilience
- Discover Your Truth Through Self-Awareness
- Master Your Emotions
- What it Means to Own Your Life!
To read the latest articles simply click on the Articles tab in the menu bar above, and if you’d like to browse past articles by date or category you can visit the Collections and browse every article published since ERL was launched in 2014 by title and date or by category.
A Few Favorites
There are currently around 200 articles published on ERL. I hate to pick favorites, but there are just a few articles that especially stand out.
- Stories of Resilience: M. Mitchell
- How Expectations Become Self-Fulfilling Prophecies
- The True Nature of Adaptability
- The Art of Reinvention
- How Resistance to Change is Creating Your Future
- Making Peace with Uncertainty
- Why We Usually Fail at Self-Improvement
- Overcoming the Odds: The Story of a Dog Named Huey
- 4 Ways We Undermine Our Efforts to Manage Time
- Healthy Boundaries Equal Healthy Relationships
- Has Stress Become a Way of Life?
Celebrate the day on which you choose to embrace the power you have to create your own life experience. It is an amazing journey and you alone will be responsible for the quality of it.