We do not act rightly because we have virtue or excellence, but we rather have those because we have acted rightly. ~Aristotle
In many ways, opening a website to reader comments is like welcoming people into your home. You’re so thrilled your invitation has been accepted, it never occurs to you that guests might not always be on their best behavior.
Unfortunately, experience has taught me that it is better to err on the side of caution, so here are the guidelines I’ve established for acceptable “comment behavior” at Emotionally Resilient Living (ERL).
Defining acceptable comments …
I’ve purposely kept the commenting guidelines as short and conversational as possible because the last thing I want to do is discourage commenting.
That said, this is my domain and I work hard to maintain a high standard when it comes to what is published for public viewing here, so it’s important to establish respectful ground rules for a few unruly guests in order to protect the majority of valued visitors to ERL.
Finally, I want to acknowledge that some of these points may sound somewhat repetitive but they reflect specific issues with commenting that are not new to this blogger or blogging in general – so please bear with me as I try to cover all the basis!
- I love thoughtful comments, whether they agree with me or not – in fact, I go out of my way to look at both sides of issues and enjoy a good debate! However, insults, meanness, outright iodicasy or flaming will be not be tolerated. Comments of this nature will be promptly deleted and depending on the severity the offender may be permanently banned.
- Comments must be on topic or at least relevant to the article where the comment is posted. Understandably each blogger has to establish their own policy … but in my view comments should express an opinion or contribute to the conversation.
- If it is obvious from your comment that you have either skimmed or not actually read the article I reserve the right to either edit the comment so that it is relevant or to remove it entirely. Sadly this has become a growing problem as a result of fellow bloggers wanting to save time and still take advantage of the links provided through CommentLuv. If it becomes a chronic problem, the offender will be permanently banned.
- I ask is that you respect that I am community building, so please note that unacceptable comments such as the following will automatically be deleted: one line comments for the purpose of grabbing a link, comments that amount to a cut and pasted a portion of my article into the comment form, or comments that are blatantly self-promotional. If I have to spend time editing a comment based on one of these issues the associated links will be removed.
- I do my best to reward commentators with plug-ins such as CommentLuv and DoFollow. While the spam filters catch the really bad stuff, I manually monitor all comments submitted to ensure the content is appropriate and relevant … if it is not, the comment will be edited or deleted.
- By submitting a comment here you grant this site a perpetual license to reproduce your words and name or link in attribution. If this is not acceptable, please DO NOT submit your comment.
- Real names only, please – no SEO driven keyword names. ERL is a DoFollow website so a link is already provided. Names that are blatant link bait will be edited or deleted.
- Emotionally Resilient Living (ERL) is not responsible for the content of comments left on this site by parties other than yours truly, Marquita “Marty” Herald.
Comments have the ability to enhance or damage your reputation. They are a permanent record – not easily removable by you – and are a reflection of who you are and what you stand for – so please take care – be gracious – make sure they add value.
Last updated: October 11, 2016