Fear didn’t just run in my family, it galloped. In fact, growing up issues such as substance abuse, depression, and general dysfunction were all too common among those near and dear.
Despite efforts to keep the rest of the world out in an attempt to closely guard family quirks, they became fodder for the trolls and that turned into some pretty painful years of endless schoolyard bullying.
Determined to put my dysfunctional childhood behind me and at the same time not follow in the family tradition, from a pretty young age I began reading every self-help book I could get my hands on.
What I really wanted to know was how some people managed to remain positive and thrive in spite of whatever obstacles they encountered, while others suffered one crisis after another, appearing to be little more than hapless victims of whatever life threw at them.
I didn’t have the words for it at the time, but I learned later that this behavior I’d become so fascinated with was resilience.
My journey hasn’t been easy, but I’m still standing, laughing, forgiving, loving, learning and living. I am tenacious, perfectly imperfect and unapologetically me.
Hi, I’m Marquita (mar-kee-ta), and I’m a personal development and resilience coach, author, publisher, founder and chief evangelist of Emotionally Resilient Living.
My professional background includes a successful career in international sales and marketing, a decade as an award-winning life and small business coach, followed by the past five years specializing in coaching to develop psychological resilience.
I work hard to keep up to date on the latest research on resilience and related studies, but there is no question that I’ve learned the most from my own personal experiences … and there have been a few doozies!
For example, in 1998, I had the opportunity to take advantage of many of the lessons I’d learned over the years and in the process experience firsthand the true meaning of emotional resilience.
In a matter of a two short months my marriage dissolved, my dad unexpectedly died of a massive heart attack while I was out of the country on business, and I was diagnosed with a rare degenerative eye disease for which there was no known cure, and the doctors said would in all likelihood leave me completely blind sooner rather than later.
There really are only two choices when you’re faced with overwhelming adversity on that level … curl up and let life defeat you, or choose to fight back and push your way through the problems.
More often than not that means simply refusing to entertain the notion that things aren’t going to work out on some level … for me, that meant mustering the courage to suck it up, face reality head-on, and get busy rebuilding my life rather than wasting time feeling sorry for myself.
Of course, the journey was nowhere near that straightforward and there have been plenty of other challenges, adventures, and detours along the way.
But the bottom line is I’ve come through it all stronger, more confident and more passionate than ever about the power of emotional resilience and now here I am sharing what I’ve learned through the years to help others embrace the ability we each have to create the quality of our own life journey.
There is no such thing as an unchanged life. We live our lives in seasons, each with its own trials, potential, and purpose. Learning to make the most of ALL life’s experiences is the promise and the power of resilient living.
My Quirky Bits & Pieces
I’ve lived most of my life in Maui, Hawaii, but recently made a pretty dramatic change by moving to the beautiful Umpqua Forest region in Oregon.
When I’m not working on a new book or article, I’m either on a road trip, painting, locked in a battle of wills with my dog Lucy, or curled up with a good mystery and glass of my favorite wine.
My first career was in international sales and marketing during which time I traveled throughout the U.S., Canada, Europe, Asia and the Pacific on behalf of the Hawaii travel industry.
During my second career as a life and small business coach, I worked with hundreds of clients across the Islands to help them create a balance between nurturing a happy, healthy family and creating a sustainable business.
In 2011 I became a full-time author – writing articles, books, and training courses to help others develop greater emotional resilience.
I dance the hula … sometimes even in public. 🙂
My nickname is Marty, a holdover from my childhood as a tomboy.
For those of you who follow the stars, my birthday is August 20 which means I’m on the cusp of Leo and Virgo.
I have published 6 books including the namesake and cornerstone publication for this website, Resilient Living.
I believe in making a difference in my community and have chaired 3 County Food Drives as well as dozens of fundraising events, and served on the board of directors for Maui Food Bank, Maui United Way, Maui Association of Non-Profits, and the South Maui Coastal Heritage Corridor Project.
I’m a voracious reader, especially books by Jonathan Kellerman, James Rollins, David Baldacci, Robert Crais, Tess Gerritsen, C.J. Box and Robert J. Thomas.
I collect classic movies such as Charlie Chan and the great horror films like the original Mummy.
I’ve hiked through Maui’s Haleakala Crater 6 times.
My Trip of a Lifetime is to Machu Picchu via Orient Express.
My life motto: You CAN, you SHOULD, and if you’re BRAVE enough … you WILL!
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