Discover Your Truth Through Self-Awareness
Who are you? Not the stories you tell about yourself, where you’re from and where you’re going, or the roles that have come to represent you life – mother, daughter, employee, father, doctor, lawyer, entrepreneur. Do you have a sense of who you really are underneath all the labels?
If you can’t easily answer that question you certainly are not alone. The age-old question of “Who am I?” is for many people like an itch they can never seem to scratch enough. As one reader so eloquently put it, “How can I ever figure out who I am meant to “be” in life if I can’t even figure out who I am now?!”
One of the greatest regrets in life is being what others would want you to be, rather than being true to yourself. ~Shannon L. Alder
Doing the work to become more self-aware is a process that can easily span a lifetime. For one thing, self-awareness is a broad term that covers many areas. The following graph may help to illustrate the concepts and behaviors that add to self-awareness.
Self-Awareness is the Foundation of All Growth
Self-awareness isn’t a magic bullet to finally decide what you want to be, do and have in life, but it is a big step in the right direction. The more you know about yourself, the better you are at adapting life changes that suit your needs and the better you’ll understand why you do the things you do. The more you understand about yourself, the easier it will be to have compassion for others, and the stronger your relationships will be. The more you know about your existing habits, the easier it is to improve on them or create new and better habits.
So many issues we face in our lives, from stress, relationship problems, worry, negative internal beliefs, our moods and emotions, our behavior can all be seen and understood more clearly by becoming more self-aware.
Awareness is a powerful tool. When used the right way it can help you rewrite life stories that no longer serve you, and undo negative and limiting internal beliefs. As much as 90% of our behavior stems from unconscious beliefs or patterns. As long as our behaviors remain unconscious, we will remain a slave to them.
Honest awareness enables you to face up to your behavior, and stop listening to excuses or accept denials. For example, if you keep saying you want to be healthy and live a long life, but you never exercise and keep eating unhealthy food. A keener understanding of your behavior is the first step to begin effectively changing your behavior.
How to Begin Increasing Self-Awareness
We need to muster the courage to be objective and brutally honest with ourselves. There can be no growth until we stop making excuses or denying our wants and needs.
We need to learn to identify the stories we tell ourselves and others about who we are and where we’re coming from and going. All humans are wired to tell stories about themselves and others, and most are colored by our past experiences, attitudes, and biases. The stories we tell ourselves about our lives don’t just shape our personalities –- they are our personalities.
We need to create a habit of self-reflection. Becoming self-aware doesn’t happen in a day. But in time, you will find yourself becoming more comfortable being open, transparent, authentic, and even vulnerable.
Persistence will definitely be required, but it’s important to understand that persistence doesn’t mean simply doing the same thing over and over. It means regularly evaluating progress and adjusting accordingly until we achieve our desired outcome.
As you become more self-aware you will be able to take control of your emotions, behavior and personality so you can make changes that you want. It is the first step to becoming the driver in your life journey. And as the driver, where you focus your attention, your emotions, reactions, personality and behavior determine where you go in life.
Self-awareness leads to increased self-confidence by building an ever greater understanding of who you are. You’ll be able to make better decisions and feel less worry and stress, and you will be able to experience greater compassion for yourself and others.
Read more …
- Self-Awareness: The Art of Being Fully Present
- Your Stories Are Key to Understanding Who You Really Are
- Faulty Beliefs: The Lies We Tell Ourselves
- How Self-Reflection Can Help You Create a Better Future
- Everything You See is a Perspective
- Your Attitude Affects Every Area of Your Life
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When you know yourself, you are empowered. When you accept yourself, you are invincible.