What It Means to Take Charge of Your Life

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There are only two ways to live. You can glide along and let things happen, reacting to whatever (and whoever) comes your way … good luck, bad luck, whatever the fates happen to serve up. OR you can choose to believe that you deserve to live your best life and begin today to take charge by moving into the driver’s seat and intentionally directing the course of your journey.

Sounds inspiring, doesn’t it? Of course, if you happen to be like most people, and already up to your eyeballs with demanding relationships, commitments, fully entrenched habits, and a lifetime of emotional baggage, then the idea of suddenly stepping up to “taking charge” of your life can also seem pretty scary, if not downright overwhelming.

Fortunately, it doesn’t have to be, but neither does the transformation happen by chance. Through this process you will begin to understand – possibly for the first time – the power you have to choose, to dream and explore, to determine your course, and to own your life – no excuses, no regrets.

It’s Your Life, OWN it!

Taking full responsibility for where you are now gives you the power to get where you want to go in the future.

Take Responsibility for Your Life

One of the first and fastest ways to own your life is to take responsibility for it. Admittedly this may be difficult for some people to accept. After all, it does somewhat bump up against the reality that there are things that we have no control over.

Nevertheless, the fact remains that we do have control over our thoughts, attitudes, reactions, feelings and beliefs. But think about this, because what it means is that you have the power to create the life you want since you are at the wheel!

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Clear the Clutter

There is no question this can be a daunting task, which is why so many people allow things to accumulate over a lifetime rather than do the work to clear the clutter of past hurts, limiting beliefs and regrets.

The problem is that in time this clutter weighs you down and prevents you from living the life you truly want and deserve. For example, by holding a grudge, you are harboring negative energy, which will only poison you. Sometimes, the ones we hold the most grudges against are ourselves, for past mistakes and actions we deeply regret. You can’t live a happy life if at some subconscious level you don’t believe you deserve one.

One of the most valuable lessons you can learn is that every experience in life, the good, the bad, and even the ugly, helps us grow in some way.

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To Change Your Life, Change Your Attitude

Your attitudes not only affect the quality of everything you do, they serve as filters that color your view of life and the world around you. If your attitudes are based on negativity, resistance and avoiding change it would be like trying to color a picture of all the wonders of the world with a box of crayons and limiting yourself to only gray. No matter how hard you try, that picture is going to end up looking pretty bleak.

The more fixed you are in your attitudes and beliefs, the more difficult it will be for you to develop habits that will improve your life or effectively manage change, because you’ll be far less likely to make much of effort to do the work to improve your circumstances if you feel you are wasting your time.

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I wonder what we could create, achieve or be if we could only let go of those pesky stories we’ve been telling ourselves. ~Stefanie Thomas


Begin Living Your Truth

What does the phrase “live your truth” mean to you? Does it make you think of authenticity, honesty, integrity, living your values and walking your talk?

The challenge is that in our efforts to be accepted we often put tremendous pressure on ourselves to fit in … or at the very least to not stand out in a way that makes us feel exposed or foolish; so we end up masking or manipulating our most vulnerable feelings, opinions, and desires in an effort to avoid judgment, discomfort or rejection. What this means is that you’re going to have to muster the courage to dig down and uncover the real you behind your filters … and the truth is, sometimes we harbor a fear that we may not like what we find all that much.

It’s important to understand that learning to live your truth isn’t about changing or “fixing” you, it’s about freeing you to be the confident, powerful person you were meant to be, and honoring that truth through actions and communication with others as well as yourself.

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Decide What Matters Most

Here is a very basic truth: Those who most often get what they want in life, take the time to know what they want. As obvious as this may sound, it’s surprising how many people never really sit down and do the work to decide what they want – not just today, next week or even next year, but from life. In other words, they are content to take life as it comes.

And what’s so wrong with taking life as it comes? Not a thing, after all, when you’re the passenger you get to sit back and enjoy the scenery as you wait to see what comes your way on the journey. But if you want more, more importantly, if you believe you deserve more in your life, then you’re going to have to ask for it.

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Managing Successful Life Changes One Step at a Time

When you first feel that rush that comes from choosing to own your life it’s going to be very tempting to jump in and try to change everything all at one time to fit with the beautiful vision you’ve created for yourself.

Unfortunately, this is a fast track to overwhelm. To create sustainable change in your life it’s best to start with one area, and just focus on taking a small step … then another, and another. The strategy here is that when you begin to see small improvements in your life, they will motivate you and consistency will help to build unstoppable momentum!

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Finally, keep in mind that there is nothing magical or special that happens to people who have chosen to take charge of their lives. It wasn’t any easier for them than it will be for you. It’s just that at some point, they chose to commit to taking responsibility and do the work. They chose to risk and take action. And most importantly, they chose to be true to themselves rather than being defined by fate, circumstances, or the whims of others.


Take Charge of Your Life

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