Reflections on the Connection Between Attitude and Aging

Written by on April 24, 2017 in Breaking Barriers



How young do you feel?

With age, we mature into adults who somehow manage to maintain sanity while juggling work, commitment overload, relationships, and task lists that have a way of taking on a life of their own.

But maturing does not mandate growing old mentally or emotionally, in fact, it is possible to remain young at heart, no matter how many years you rack up.

This may sound like we’re veering into cliché territory, but I’m talking in very real terms about the quality of your life.

Living with an “I’m too old for that” attitude causes your life to begin gradually shrinking and before you know it you become so set in your ways that you forget how to have fun and will do pretty much anything to avoid the discomfort of change.

Naysayers may call the notion of being young heart foolish and silly, but don’t kid yourself, a youthful heart is not only contagious; it’s good for your health and anyone who is smart enough to let it in won’t let it go.

Here are 25 insightful quotations on the connection between attitude and aging:

The secret of the fountain of youth is not anything that can be bought. The secret of the fountain of youth is a healthy attitude toward aging. Whatever your age, there’s always room for one more goal one more accomplishment, one more way to better yourself and the world around you. Never stop growing! ~Author Unknown

Nobody grows old merely by living a number of years. We grow old by deserting our ideals. Years may wrinkle the skin, but to give up enthusiasm wrinkles the soul. ~Samuel Ullman

A man is not old until regrets take the place of dreams. ~John Barrymore

Some people, no matter how old they get, never lose their beauty. They merely move it from their faces into their hearts. ~Martin Buxbaum

It is possible at any age to discover a lifelong desire you never knew you had. ~Robert Brault

The other day a man asked me what I thought was the best time of life. ‘Why,’ I answered without a thought, ‘now.’ ~David Grayson

Anyone who stops learning is old, whether at twenty or eighty. Anyone who keeps learning stays young. The greatest thing in life is to keep your mind young. ~Henry Ford

Old age is an excellent time for outrage. My goal is to say or do at least one outrageous thing every week. ~Louis Kronenberger

Preparation for old age should begin no later than one’s teens. A life which is empty of purpose until 65 will not suddenly become filled on retirement. ~Dwight L. Moody

Aging only happens to people who lose their lust for getting better and disconnect from their natural base of curiosity. ~Robin Sharma

The greatest use of life is to spend it on something that will outlast it. ~William James

Sometimes, people use age as a convenient excuse. ‘I’m too old to start something new’ or, ‘I couldn’t learn that at my age.’ Other people, though, go on to achieve their greatest accomplishments in life in later years. ~Catherine Pulsifer

We do not stop playing because we grow old; we grow old because we stop playing. ~Benjamin Franklin

The older I get, the less I care about what others think of me. Therefore, the older I get, the more I enjoy life. ~Author Unknown

As you get older you will understand more and more that it’s not about what you look like or what you own, it’s all about the person you’ve become. ~Author Unknown

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Age is irrelevant. Ask me how many sunsets I’ve seen, hearts I’ve loved, trips I’ve taken, or concerts I’ve been to. That’s how old I am. ~Joelle

Live your life. Take chances. Be crazy. Don’t wait. Because right now is the oldest you’ve ever been and the youngest you’ll be ever again. ~Author Unknown

Age isn’t a barrier. It’s a limitation you put on your mind. ~Jackie Joyner-Kersee

Young at heart. Slightly older in other places. ~Author Unknown

The best thing about getting older is that we learn to ignore the lies of the ego to enjoy more the reality of our heart. ~Author Unknown

Wrinkles should merely indicate where smiles have been. ~Mark Twain

Looking back, it seems to me that I was pretty much clueless until I was about 50 years old. ~Nora Ephron

I love my age! I’m old enough to know better, young enough not to care, and experienced enough to do it right. ~Author Unknown

You’re never too old to play, pursue a new goal, wish upon a star or trust in miracles, so let’s end with my favorite “life” quote of all!


Let today be the day you give up who you’ve been for who you can become.
About Marquita Herald

Marquita Herald

Marquita is an author, resilience coach and the chief evangelist at Emotionally Resilient Living. She’s also an unapologetic workaholic who loves red wine, rock n’ roll, road trips (and car dancing!), peanut butter cookies and (especially) a dog named Lucy.

She’s saddened and frustrated by excuses and cruelty and believes authentic compassion is the most powerful force in the world.

To learn more about Marquita and the mission of Emotionally Resilient Living click here.

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  1. Manoj

    Hi Marquita,

    Excellent thoughts on life and aging. I love the wordings, especially that of Henry Ford.
    “Anyone who stops learning is old, whether at twenty or eighty. Anyone who keeps learning stays young. The greatest thing in life is to keep your mind young”
    It clearly indicates a normal man’s attitude and how should we be.
    Thank you very much for the inspirational writing and collections.
    Have a wonderful week ahead.

    Take care,
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  2. Joyce Hansen

    What a wonderful collection of wise sayings, Marquita. Most people don’t realize that they talk themselves into the type of aging they see as inevitable. Their attitude, their self-talk registers with their brain, and the brain is very compliant and will follow through as suggested. Why not age on your terms?
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    • Glad you enjoyed the article Joyce and while I haven’t read your article on Mercury Retrograde I can tell you that this is one gal who is SO glad that it’s about to come to an end! Mostly I don’t pay much attention to the stars. but this phase had me dealing with one tech problem after another. Happy to be seeing the light at the end of the tunnel. 🙂

  3. Reba Linker

    I loved these two: “A man is not old until regrets take the place of dreams.”~John Barrymore
    “Some people, no matter how old they get, never lose their beauty. They merely move it from their faces into their hearts.” ~Martin Buxbaum
    This is a beautiful collection of quotes with truly important messages for us all.

  4. Hi Marquita, I love this subject because I reflect on my age often. I will be 53 in a few weeks and I feel young at heart and I am always so motivated to better myself & my lifestyle. I agree with you that we are never too old to play, pursue a new goal, wish upon a star or trust in miracles! Thank you for all the great quotes! ~ Nathalie

  5. Suzie Cheel

    So many brilliant quotes, Love the take risks and the wrinkles one I do believe you are only as old as you choose to feel. yes some of us have good genes. I am surprised though how many of my friends in their 60s are really retired in their life and their mind. Great post Marty xxx
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  6. Sue Kearney says:

    I was reading through the quotes, going “mm-hmm,” “yes,” “good one.” And then I read this: “Live your life. Take chances. Be crazy. Don’t wait. Because right now is the oldest you’ve ever been and the youngest you’ll be ever again.”


    I thank you.
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  7. When someone my age says to me, “I’m too old for…” I say, Never say you’re too old, just that you’re too wise.”
    Like Jeri, until I was in my mid-forties, I got asked if I was over 30. Fun, but not relevant to how I’ve ever felt. Fifty-eight comes this year and like an 80 some thing year old friend once said, “You see old on the outside, but inside I’m still 26.”
    I’m holding on to the energy and emotions of 26 while celebrating the wisdom I gain every day!
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  8. Emily

    I love reading stories about older men and women who are able to do such amazing things like marathons and being able to not only keep up but beat their younger counterparts. I know at my gym, there is an older man who is so much more flexible than I am even though he has so many more years on me. I am in awe of him in that respect! Age shouldn’t stop anybody, and that just goes to prove it.
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  9. Jeri

    Hardly anyone ever believes I’m 40. Before baldness and cancer hit, I still got guesses of 25-30 all the time. When I was thirty, I was still mistaken for a teen (not fun). I’ve wondered why I’m a youthful person too because I am always told I have an old soul. My life has been stressful and I typically only get six hours of sleep per night. So a lot of that youthfulness must come down to attitude because a lot of the other typical factors are stacked against me. So I guess is what I’m trying to say if I look young but have always felt old. I am trying to be more youthful in my approach to life as a way to reduce stress.
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  10. Tuhin

    Too good Marquita!
    I always try to inspire people to never stop living life like a kid. But only a few people understand the importance of staying young at heart!
    This post should work as a reminder to all those people who have forgotten the art to appreciate the beauties of life once they touch the middle stages of life.
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  11. Marquita — I loved all the quotes, particularly the last one, which I intend to send to all my friends of “a certain age.” That’s me, too, having joined the octegenarian class. I’ve never felt so good or alive. I’m blessed with good health, which is certainly a key factor, but the secret is to keep learning and living life. I’m in “bonus” time based on my original life expectancy so why not enjoy it? Of great importance is surrounding yourself with friends you really care about and keeping family close.One study disclosed that lonely people are 25% more likely to die than those who aren’t lonely. So live it up!
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  12. William Rusho

    Kirk Douglas was asked about how bad it was getting old, he simply replied “Its better than the alternative”
    I know I have slowed down a little. I still do professional wrestling, even at 57. Sometimes I might not be as fast, but I am more experienced.
    We always wished we could go back with the knowledge we have now. But as George Bernard Shaw said “Youth is wasted on the young”

  13. I love the list of quotes you have assembled on aging, Marty. I totally agree that aging is all about attitude. The elderly people in my life who have been most memorable, are those who enjoyed life to the best of their ability each and every day.
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  14. Victoria says:

    The issue this raises for me is the need to identify what underlies and fuels the negative attitudes about getting older to begin with? What are the cultural, social and other forces at play in our society that cast a negative expectation about aging? Those are the issues that don’t receive enough attention, in my view. They concern socially conditioned values, beliefs and expectations that impact peoples’ sense of what they are living and working for; their overall purpose of life.

    • No question, ageism is alive in our culture. On the other hand, more people than ever are accomplishing things like graduating from college, running marathons and publishing books in their 80’s nd 90’s. I’ve always been a grassroots kinda gal which is why I focus on individuals here rather than attempting to address societies shortcomings. You have good points and I hope that you’ll pursue creating change! 🙂

  15. Mark

    It’s all about have and or cultivating the right attitude M!

    And that message certainly rings loud and clear i your excellent post!

    And I really like all you quotes, but especially the final one by Hunter S. Thompson!

    That really sums it up, doe it not? LOL!

    We can either go through this thing called “life”, at half or full speed!

    But we’re going one way or the other! LOl!
    Mighty good stuff as usual M!

    Personally, I prefer Hunters approach!LOL!
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    • Yep, that quote by Thompson has been a favorite of mine for a long time. I’ve read his book, Fear and Loathing in Las Vegas 3 times! Glad you enjoyed the post Mrk. 🙂

  16. Phoenicia

    The saying “you are as old as you feel” is true. People appear more youthful now than 40/50 years ago. Then it seemed once a women reached 50 she had to dress like a pensioner. Nowadays I could easily shop in the same store as a woman 15/20 years my senior and no-one would bat an eyelid.

    I do like Henry Ford’s quote regarding ceasing to learn. Adding to our knowledge whether through reading books or going on adventures makes us feel alive.

    As a child and teen I loved the thrill of theme park rides. The faster and the higher the better. To this day I am still the same. The little kid in me comes out and I cannot help but get excited! I hope excitement never leaves me.
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    • Good for you Phoenicia! I have to say you’re braver than me because I do not do theme park rides – at all! Seriously, ageism is still a factor in society but you are so right about the changes and the best examples I can think of are how we’re no longer surprised to see people running marathons or graduating from college in their 80’s and 90’s. Thanks so much for stopping by and sharing your thoughts with us. 🙂

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