We are each living the life we choose. Of course, I’m not talking about one epic all-encompassing choice, but the result of the many, many small choices we make hourly, daily, and moment by moment.
Unfortunately many, if not most, of those choices are based on our unwavering commitment to do whatever it takes to avoid the unfamiliar.
Think not? When was the last time you did something for the first time, or did something unexpected, even a little quirky just for the fun of it?
Faced with the stress and noise of everyday living it’s no wonder we take comfort in the familiar. The problem is growth isn’t a bi-product of staying safely tucked well within the boundaries of our comfort zone.
The Problem With Comfortable Choices
At times, I wonder if the concept of “Comfort Zone” hasn’t become little more than a cliché. Heaven knows volumes have been written about it, and yet time and again I see the notion dismissed with what I personally consider to be one of the most dreadful rationalizations of all times … “but change is difficult.”
Every time I see that sentence I want to say, “Yes it is, and so-o-o?” because there are only two ways to go with that declaration …
- Change is difficult, but I choose to embrace discomfort to achieve my dreams, or
- Change is difficult so I’m staying right where I am, thank you very much!
The truth of life is that change will happen with or without our cooperation, but whether or not that process gives rise to growth is entirely up to us. Regardless of the challenges and unexpected detours we may face along the way, the depth and quality of life is always our choice.
Life is either a daring adventure or nothing at all. ~Helen Keller
Pursue What You Want, or Settle For What’s Comfortable
Inspiration may just be one of the most underrated aspects of the human experience. It’s amazing what a mere string of words can do to show us that we are not alone, that others have experienced the same challenges and asked the same questions … here are 10 insightful thoughts on why we need to embrace change to grow.
- The only way that we can live, is if we grow. The only way that we can grow is if we change. The only way that we can change is if we learn. The only way we can learn is if we are exposed. And the only way that we can become exposed is if we throw ourselves out into the open. Do it. Throw yourself. ~C. JoyBell C.
- Often, it’s not about becoming a new person, but becoming the person you were meant to be, and already are, but don’t know how to be. ~Heath L. Buckmaster
- I’ve learned enough from life’s experiences to understand that destiny’s interventions can sometimes be read as an invitation for us to address and even surmount our biggest fears. It doesn’t take a great genius to recognize that when you are pushed by circumstance to do the one thing you have always most specifically loathed and feared, this can be, at the very least, be an important growth opportunity. ~Elizabeth Gilbert
- Sometimes we know in our bones what we really need to do, but we’re afraid to do it. Taking a chance and stepping beyond the safety of the world we’ve always known is the only way to grow though and without risk, there is no reward. ~Wil Wheaton
- Coming out of your comfort zone is tough in the beginning, chaotic in the middle, and awesome in the end … because in the end, it shows you a whole new world! ~Manoj Arora
- Even the smallest changes in our daily routine can create incredible ripple effects that expand our vision of what is possible. ~Charles F. Glassman
- Growth is painful. Change is painful. But nothing is as painful as staying stuck somewhere you don’t belong. ~Mandy Hale
- There are no mistakes. The events we bring upon ourselves, no matter how unpleasant, are necessary in order to learn what we need to learn; whatever steps we take, they’re necessary to reach the places we’ve chosen to go. ~Richard Bach
- Your journey has molded you for your greater good, and it was exactly what it needed to be. Don’t think that you’ve lost time. It took each and every situation you have encountered to bring you to the now, and now is right on time. ~Asha Tyson
- There is no growth without change. You’ve got to let go of some old stuff. And that can hurt. Often when I’m in the most pain, I realize it’s coming from my trying to control everything … or resisting the changes that come with the progress. But you see that light … that beautiful next level … and that’s what you have to focus on. ~Ali Brown
As you go about your day why not challenge yourself to become aware each time you choose to stick with a routine, comfortable habits rather than trying something new and see if there isn’t some way to begin nudging those boundaries with a few new experiences.
Let today be the day you give up who you’ve been for who you can become.
About Marquita Herald
Marquita is an author, resilience coach and the chief evangelist at Emotionally Resilient Living. She’s also an unapologetic workaholic who loves red wine, rock n’ roll, road trips (and car dancing!), peanut butter cookies and (especially) a dog named Lucy.
She’s saddened and frustrated by excuses and cruelty and believes authentic compassion is the most powerful force in the world.
To learn more about Marquita and the mission of Emotionally Resilient Living click “here“.